A year ago, I almost died.

May 2nd 2017.

For those following this blog you know thay I cheated death a while back. Well yesterday marked the first year annviersary of the second worst day of my life.

I won’t go into details to explain what happened, if you want to you can read this post that explains what happened : how I almost died

 

All I know is that considering how bad my kidneys worst that I should have died or at least lose both of them. It did not happen. I can’t explain how or why and my surgeon and gp can’t either. All I know is that I’m here today and I’m here to stay.

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Want to be happy? Try being grateful first.

A few days ago, I shared my feeling about the sudden change in my mood and general state on the choose FI group and someone was kind enough to share this video with me want to be happy? be grateful . It is a video of David Steindl-Rast, a monk and interfaith scholar. The point he is trying to make here is that if one wants to be happy one must be grateful.

Truth be told I have been privileged my whole life. I was spoiled rotten by my parents, grew up in a small village where there was no crime, no drugs, where I could ride my bike with my friends without the fear of being run over or kidnapped.  My parents, my cousin and I all went on vacation several a years and I was always able to study in good conditions. Yes, I had a perfect life up until I was about 17 years old and yet I have always been a Debbie Downer.

At least that’s how most people would call me but I would rather describe myself as a realist person.Ever since I was a young child, I have always had this ability to see the world and people for exactly what they are, it is not that I do not see the good in people or believe that the world can change, it is just that I do not expect it and do not organise my life around potential changes that may never happen.

You may ask yourself, what made her this way? Quite frankly nothing. If anything, I should be the most optimistic person in the world.

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What does it mean to be an expat?

What does it mean to be an expat?

One of the things that comes up the most when talking about FI is traveling. I have read countless stories of people who have either taken a year off to travel the world or live in one particular country or people who save up their vacation days so they can take a 3 weeks trip every year, picking a new destination each time. There is also a fairly important number of people who have decided to sell everything they owned, packed up the essentials and decided to explore the world. Some will rely on their savings and will eventually come back to their home country at some point but some, like myself decided to permanently settle away from their home country.

An expatriate (often shortened to expat) is a person temporarily or permanently residing in a country other than that of their citizenship.

More precisely an expat is a person who is sent by their employer to work abroad. Nowadays most people who have left their home countries use this word to describe themselves, I suppose it sounds fancier than “immigrant”.

Now, I truly believe that humans are not made to stay in the same place for their entire lives and yet most people end up spending their whole lives in their hometown or within few miles.

Despite that fact, it is easy to meet people who have the strong desire to travel and explore but most will never get the chance to.

Why you may ask?

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Being single, a handicap or an advantage?

As you may have noticed the FI community is one of most open communities out there. Whether it is on Facebook or on blogs, people never seem to mind sharing their income, FI number, how much they have in retirement and all sorts of numbers.  Even if one the principles of FI is to enjoy life through experiences and not compare yourself to others(the famous Keeping up with the Joneses), when you are as active as I try to be on social media you can not help but comparing your situation to others’. “Have I started this journey too late? Can I reach FI on my salary when most of the pillars of this community seem to be making over 100k a year? The one question that I used to ask myself was ” can I make it on my own,  is being single a handicap or a advantage?  Let’s see.

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